So, when IS the appropriate time to talk about guns?

Children being ushered out of the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn.

Children being ushered out of the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn.

Ten days ago I posted about gun violence and now we have another tragedy, this time with a death toll of 27, 18 of them young children.

I asked on Facebook whether we might sit down now and talk about sensible regulations because this is a pro-life issue and too many people who call themselves pro-life are against regulating access to guns.

One of my FB friends said I was being inappropriate to talk about such issues so soon after this tragedy. So how long do we wait? It hasn’t even been two weeks since the last one.

The appropriate time is now, when the images of frightened children and horrified adults are still fresh in out minds. Now, when our collective national heart is broken, is the ideal time to talk about this.

The National Rifle Association, which has become an advocate for gun manufacturers and not for people, would love us to postpone this conversation, and they have lots of money to try and put up roadblocks.

The Second Amendment was not meant to give all Americans unlimited access to all the latest killing technology. It also mentioned a well-regulated militia, and that isn’t what has happened.

It is long past time to stop this madness. How can you condone this massacre of our children? What if it had been your child? What if your child is among the victims of the next massacre?

Now is the appropriate time to talk about reasonable restrictions on gun ownership. Let’s do it in memory of these 27 people and the tens of thousands of victims who came before them.

Belief and truth aren’t necessarily the same thing

During my many years as a newspaper reporter, I developed some strong standards about truth.

For one thing, the “other side” isn’t valid for every story. Sometimes the other side is nothing more than a lie.

Not long after my son died, I wrote a story about the number of people in North Carolina who were losing health insurance as they were laid off their jobs. It was pretty straightforward. Jobs were leaving the state at a record rate, and people were losing health coverage. The story was based on numbers supplied by Families USA, a national nonprofit that collects such data from every state.

The day the story ran, I got a call from the conservative “think” tank, the Heritage Foundation. The woman wanted to know if I would quote their expert in my next story about insurance. I asked for some information on her expert and she e-mailed a single quote from someone saying the free market should handle health care.

I told the woman that I doubted I would quote her expert, since the quote had nothing to back it up.

“Oh, I suppose you’re one of these people who believes people are dying left and right,” she said.

I told her I know first-hand that people are dying and unless she could back up her expert’s statement with some hard evidence, her expert was offering nothing more than an opinion.

Some people still believe the Earth is flat, I suppose, or that tobacco is perfectly safe or that mental illnesses are caused by demons. I wouldn’t quote them, either.

You can believe that the earth is just 6,000 years old, despite all the scientific evidence to the contrary, or that evolution is just a “theory,” not the truth, but I won’t support that being taught in science class, especially since there’s no science to back it up.

You can believe trickle-down economics works, but the evidence just doesn’t support it.

You can believe that cutting taxes on the wealthiest Americans is the best way to create jobs, but the evidence of the last 30 years shows otherwise.

My failure to accept your “belief” as truth is not bias against you personally. If your belief is unsound it is my job as a journalist to challenge it. I’m not here to prop up your false assumptions; my job is to get at the truth.

People didn’t ride dinosaurs. The Earth is ancient. Global warming is real. People are dying from lack of health care. Children in this country are malnourished and the food supply is unsafe. The war in Iraq was contrived and illegal. We CAN afford to pay people a living wage and give them access to quality health care. The economy won’t tank if we regulate the banksters.

The problem with journalism now is that everyone is so afraid of being called biased that they’re only too happy to print the lies and not challenge the liars. And we as a nation are left to suffer the consequences of these lies.

Bob Costas was right

Let me start by saying I don’t want to take away everyone’s guns. I’ve been target shooting and had a good time. I approve of hunting as long as the hunter uses the animal for more than a trophy.

But the United States has an appallingly high murder rate and it’s because guns are so readily available.

Someone who has had domestic violence charges against him (or her) should not have a loaded gun in the bedside table drawer. Someone who has committed a violent crime of any sort should not have access to a gun.

For someone with anger issues, a gun is just too handy, and Jovan Belcher’s actions followed the classic profile of an abuser. He snapped, killed his girlfriend and then felt so guilty he killed himself.

According to the National Coalition against Domestic Violence, there are 16,800 homicides and 2.2 million (medically treated) injuries due to intimate partner violence each year, and the cost is $37 billion.

According to the Violence Prevention Center, “an analysis of female domestic homicides (a woman murdered by a spouse, intimate acquaintance, or close relative) showed that prior domestic violence in the household made a woman 14.6 times more likely, and having one or more guns in the home made a woman 7.2 times more likely, to be the victim of such a homicide.”

In other words, if abusers didn’t have guns (and federal law prohibits anyone with an order of protection filed against them because of domestic violence to have a gun), the murder rate among women would go down dramatically.

I’m really, really tired of hearing that guns don’t kill people; people do. People with ready access to guns kill some 10,000 people in this country every year. The only countries that rank higher in gun deaths are South Africa, Colombia and Thailand. Even Mexico ranks below us.

The United States leads the world in gun ownership, with 88.8 guns per 100 people, and 34 percent of Americans owning guns. That includes collectors, many of whom own antique guns that no longer work. But it also includes people who think they need an arsenal of guns to battle the United Nations’ black helicopters.

In terms of gun homicide rate (per 100,000 population), only eight nations — Colombia, Guatemala, Paraguay, Zimbabwe, Mexico, Costa Rica, Belarus and Barbados — beat the United States, which registers 2.97 homicide gun deaths per 100,000 people.

Most other developed nations run just a fraction of our per capita gun death rate:
Switzerland (0.56), Canada (0.54), Germany (0.47), Finland (0.43), Ireland (0.32), Denmark (0.26), England (0.12), Australia, Japan, Korea? way, way below us, and Singapore at 0.02 and Hong Kong at 0.01 barely even register.

We need to have a conversation. This is not about Obama coming to take your guns, it’s about making guns a little less available to people who use them to kill other people. It’s not about whether Bob Costas was out of line when he talked about the Jovan Belcher murder-suicide, it’s about starting a serious conversation.

We don’t need assault weapons. We don’t need guns that shoot a hundred shots a minute. We don’t need guns in every home.

Bob Costas was talking truth when he quoted Fox News columnist Jason Whitlock. And since Costas often offers up commentary during football halftime, his words were not inappropriate.

The National Rifle Association has turned the conversation from responsible gun ownership and reasonable regulation to advocacy for a free-for-all that’s just short of anarchy.

It’s time to steer the conversation back to a reasonable course. Remember, the Second Amendment talks about “a well regulated militia,” not about every home having an unregulated cache of assault weapons.

 

Government-supported retail

On Black Friday, people turned out to protest the working conditions at Walmarts across the country.

For people who don’t want any government interference, the family that owns Walmart certainly relies pretty heavily on the feds.

About 80 percent of the people who work for Walmart are eligible for food stamps. All told, these hard-working people get $1 billion in government assistance, and the Walton family walks away with billions in profits.

Walmart employees make an average of $8.81 an hour, according to IBISWorld, an independent market research group. In most parts of the country, living wage is almost double that. A living wage is what it takes to pay rent on modest living space, buy groceries, own a car and pay utilities. There is no cable TV calculated into living wage, no meals out, no evenings at the movies, no smart phone with unlimited data.

This wage adds up to annual pay of $15,576, based upon Walmart’s full-time status of 34 hours per week. That wage, if you’re a single parent with three kids, is well below the federal poverty level of about $22,000 for a family of four.

Walmart employs 1 percent of the US population, but its payroll doesn’t come close to 1 percent of total wages paid in the country.

According to a paper by the Center for Labor Research and Education at University of California Berkeley, if Walmart started paying a $12 per hour, its workers who now make less than $9 per hour could each earn $3,250 to $6,500 more per year before taxes. If Walmart were to pass this cost directly to shoppers, the average consumer would need to pay only 46 cents more per shopping trip, or $12.50 per year.

Last week, Walmart announced that it would stop offering health insurance to new employees who work less than 30 hours per week. And you can bet most new employees will work less than 30 hours per week.

The company cited the costs of the Affordable Care Act, even though the law isn’t fully implemented for another year.

It’s just another excuse to screw the workers and keep them in poverty.

Walmart can afford to pay a better wage and more benefits. Compare it to Costco, where the average employee earns about $17 an hour and has health coverage. No, the CEO won’t be able to make more than 1,200 times what the average employee makes. Big deal.

A living wage would allow people the dignity of making their own decisions about their spending instead of having to rely on the government agencies that subsidize their food, rent and health care costs.

Walmart typically goes into markets and undercuts the prices of local merchants, driving many of them out of business. It keeps wages low, and with few other options for retail jobs in many communities, its employees have to stay on.

Sure the prices at Walmart are low — they’re subsidized by all of us taxpayers.

 

Be thankful and stay home with family and friends

The Boyd kids and their kids, 1977.

Today is a day to reflect on the things we have.

I like to look to my late son for the perfect example. Both he and my sister, Ellen, who died six years ago, lived in the spirit of gratitude. They both embraced life, even as it was ebbing away.

“Every day above ground is a good day,” Ellen said often during the last weeks of her life.

Mike just said, “I love my life,” even as it was confined to a single room.

Our tradition here is to go around the Thanksgiving table and talk about the things we have to be thankful for: family, friends, a warm, safe place to call home, enough food, and of course, our Star Trek DVD/Blu-ray collection.

On Mike’s final Thanksgiving, he was thankful for my bread stuffing and chocolate cream pie, and the ability to take a nap after dinner. I was thankful for him; I still am.

I’m thankful for my surviving son and his wife and kids. Even though Danny and I have had our difficulties, he is a most precious gift to me.

I’m thankful for my sister’s son and daughter, who now torment and tease me, as I do them. I adore them both, and their children.

I like to spend this day and this weekend reflecting on these things, and thinking about people who have less than I do as I crochet hats and scarves to donate to them.

I never, ever shop on Black Friday.

I don’t need to shop local on Saturday because I do that all year long, and I ignore Cyber Monday.

Our holiday warmth has been co-opted by huge, greedy corporations, and we are led to believe that buying things we don’t need will make us happy.

It won’t.

My Thanksgiving traditions include watching “King Kong,” listening to Arlo Guthrie’s “Alice’s Restaurant” and being with people I love.

This year, it’s just me and Rob and our friend, Dee, for dinner. We’ll eat, enjoy a glass of wine and maybe even light a fire in the backyard fireplace (or as Dee puts it, “burn stuff in the back yard.”).

Instead of focusing on battling other folks to save a few bucks on things you don’t need, how about focusing on family? Our time here is so short, our lives so fragile and uncertain.

As I listen for the echos of voices now silenced, I am even more grateful for the ones still here. I choose to spend time with them instead of shopping.

 

 

 

I decide when to shop — and where

The day after Thanksgiving is Black Friday, and we’re supposed to go without sleep so we can get big bargains. Some of the big-box stores are opening at 8 p.m. Thanksgiving night to give people the jump on the bargains.

So, with all these bargains offered to us, I think it’s important to remember that the stores and the manufacturers are still making a profit.

Now it seems we’re supposed to support small businesses the day after Black Friday and shop on the Internet on Monday.

I will do my best to not spend any money on any of those three days.

And when I do shop, it will be at local businesses.

Asheville has a wealth of artists and craftspeople, and most of them offer affordable gifts.

This area also has an incredible array of restaurants where owners aren’t planning to lay off employees or cut their hours to avoid paying anything for their workers’ health care.

The bosses at these businesses don’t get multi-million dollar bonuses. They usually make a modest income, and they feel a sense of loyalty to the people who work for them.

Papa John’s, Olive Garden, Red Lobster, Applebee’s and IHOP will lay off employees or cut their hours to avoid paying for health insurance. But Laurey’s Catering here in Asheville pays its employees a living wage AND offers health insurance. And the food is much better than at any corporate chain.

Up to 80 percent of WalMart’s employees qualify for food stamps. Spend your money there and it lines the pockets of the Walton family. Spend your money in the River Arts District and it stays here.

Buy a hand-turned wooden bowl from Mike Robinson at Third Eye Woodworking and it will help pay the rent on his home or it will buy groceries for his family. Buy a small sculpture from Greg Vineyard and he’ll spend it on things he needs here in town. In either case, you’ll have something beautiful and unique.

If someone is telling you when and where to spend your money, it’s because they want a piece of it.

I think for myself. I choose when and where to shop. You can too.

Let’s dedicate this next year to buying local whenever possible. The big corporations need us more than we need them.

 

 

Today’s the day

Nothing could stop Lucille from being at the polls handing out literature for her sister, Michelle Pace Wood.

I started off the day at Democratic headquarters making phone calls to remind people to get out and vote. Most of the people I spoke to had voted already. One older gentleman happily told me he had voted for the “Obama-rama ticket!”

As with all phone banking, you get lots of hang-ups and some nasty people. I got called a commie-socialist-Marxist Democrat. Another woman told me it was none of my damn business whether she had voted.

But I soldiered through a couple hundred calls before I took the camera out and shot some photos of volunteers outside the polls.

At the Crossroads Assembly Church, the brother of a candidate was there with his infant daughter. On her stroller was a sign asking people to vote for her uncle, Drew Reisinger, for Register of Deeds.

Outside of the next place I went was the sister of Buncombe County Commission candidate Michelle Pace Wood, handing out voter information. She had an injured foot and was hooked up to a machine that was pumping medication into her. She has breast cancer, but today was too important to stay home.

At the third place I went, an elderly veteran in a wheelchair was handing out Republican slate cards.

It was cold and drizzling, but these people braved it because voting is our most precious right as Americans.

At one polling place, a woman volunteering for the Republicans hollered at almost everyone walking in, “Remember your freedoms!”

I’m sure she meant that the Dems would take those freedoms away, but I hollered, “Indeed! And thanks for exercising your freedom to vote!” She and I looked at each other and smiled.

One young man asked whether the Democratic slate card I handed him contained candidates with Christian values. I told him I thought they all did, considering Christ himself placed a great deal of importance on serving the poor and marginalized.

I spent most of my adult life working in newsrooms, not for candidates or for a party on Election Day. It had its benefits, but I feel like I’m making more of a difference answering people’s questions and helping them make decisions.

This election I can talk about the importance of health reform and social programs that help alleviate poverty. I can talk about the benefits of early childhood education and nutrition programs. I can talk about the morality of the decisions made in Raleigh and in Washington and how those decisions affect everyday Americans.

I can debunk myths instead of repeating them as “the other side of the story.”

I still haven’t decided if I’ll join the Democrats at their post-election party or if I’ll go home and watch TV by myself and relax. I think I’m leaning toward the party, though, because this day seems like a holiday to me.

 

The politics of disaster

This man is not looking for canned peas, Mitt.

Mitt Romney isn’t backing off. He said last spring that the federal government shouldn’t be helping people in cases of disaster. He said it’s immoral, and that he would privatize FEMA, the Federal Emergency Management Agency.

Instead of standing firm in the aftermath of the worst storm ever to hit the Northeast, he just refused to answer questions.

He organized a “disaster relief” rally, where he sold anti-Obama T-shirts and “collected” canned foods for the people affected by the storm (Turns out he bought $5,000 worth of supplies and had people”donate” it back to him). He told the story of how he once helped clean up a football field after a storm, as though that could be compared to what people all along the Northeast Coast are facing. It would have been better if he had just stayed home.

Now, the American Red Cross doesn’t accept clothing or canned goods in the aftermath of a major disaster because people who have just lost everything have no way to open that can of Beanie Weenies, no way to heat it up and no utensils to eat it with.

I have covered major floods and other disasters. I have volunteered to go and help. Believe me, people who came into the Hearts With Hands camp in Ocean Springs, Miss., after Hurricane Katrina weren’t looking for canned goods.

We assembled boxes with cleaning supplies and toiletries — and a Bible. Normally, I wouldn’t think it appropriate to evangelize under these circumstances, but we were in the Bible Belt and the Bible was the first thing most people picked out of the box.

We gave out cases and cases of bottled water, tons of diapers and wipes, towels and washcloths, but no canned food.

We had a mountain of old clothes that we couldn’t use and we had boxes and boxes of canned food that people just didn’t need or want.

When your home has been destroyed and you’re in a shelter — a high school gymnasium or a church hall — you don’t need canned sloppy joe mix; you need counseling, you need assurance that things will return to normal one day. You need a hot shower and a warm bed. You would like some privacy, although that’s not possible.

These shelters are supplied by food stores, government surplus food and restaurants. They have institutional kitchens where meals for hundreds of people can be prepared. Almost always, someone who owns a demolished restaurant staffs the kitchen.

Now, Iowa Republican Rep. Steve King is saying the government should be careful how it spends disaster relief money because people will just go out and buy Gucci bags with it. He claims that’s what happened along the Gulf Coast after Katrina.

I was on the Gulf Coast after Katrina, and I didn’t see any Gucci bags. I did see people being shortchanged by insurance companies, paid pennies on the dollar for the value of their homes so they couldn’t afford to rebuild. Once the land was abandoned, the banks sold it to developers who wanted to build resorts. That’s how the private sector works.

I saw block after block of disaster like I never imagined could happen. I saw x’s on what was left of door frames or concrete steps. In the lower right, if there was a number, it signified the number of bodies found there. I spoke to a school teacher who had driven by the houses of her students and found numbers in the x’s on two of them.

Disaster relief should not be political. This has to be about getting people back on their feet, about helping families get over the trauma and rebuilding devastated communities.

Party shouldn’t matter when people are in need.

Someone asked New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie whether he would invite Mitt Romney to come tour the disaster area, and Christie, a Republican, shot back that this was not the time for political showmanship. He is worried about the 2 million people in his state who don’t have power and the tens of thousands whose homes have been damaged or destroyed. He’s worried about the gas leaks that could cause massive explosions and fires.

Then he did something that really surprised me and gave me hope that some things can be seen as above politics: he praised President Obama for being there, for being on the phone with him in the middle of the night and for rushing through the disaster declaration. That took courage in today’s political climate.

Want to know how you can help? Donate to the American Red Cross. They’re experts at working in disasters. Or you can donate to Hearts With Hands (which does accept non-perishable foods), a first-responder agency based here in Asheville.

This disaster will take months, if not years, to clean up. Let’s hope whoever wins this election has the compassion to do the work necessary to get it done.

Why do we keep paying attention to them?

Why do we pay any attention to this man?

Donald Trump offers President Obama $5 million for his favorite charity if he will release his college transcripts — which no president as ever been asked to release — and the media are all over it as though it were news.

Ann Coulter called the president an epithet for a person with developmental disabilities and refuses to apologize.

Sarah Palin talks about the president’s “shuck and jive.”

John Sununu, who works for the Romney campaign, says Gen. Colin Powell only endorsed the president because they’re both African-American.

All of them are all over the news, although Sununu did walk back his comment. Still, he said it, and it’s obvious he’s only sorry it made the news, as it should have, since he works for the Romney campaign.

But the other three, Trump, Palin and Coulter, don’t ever deserve to have a camera or a microphone pointed in their direction. They are celebrities only because we insist on paying attention to them, and their contributions to the political conversation are all negative and only for self-aggrandization.

Trump is an arrogant, self-centered rich bastard with an incredibly bloated sense of his own importance. The media should refuse to fuel it.

Coulter is a shrill, mean-spirited and rude “pundit” who has never held public office. Her only claim to fame is that she can out-shout other people on talk shows.

Palin is a half-term governor who lost her bid for higher office and insists on hanging around to deliver her mindless drivel on Fox News.

Why are they even in the news? It likely stems from Americans’ love of celebrity. These people are celebrities because we continue to pay attention to them.

The best thing we can do is refuse to participate. Don’t forward their antics in your e-mail; don’t share their bull on Facebook; write letters to the editors of newspapers that continue to pay attention to them and ask that they stop.

They do not deserve our attention; we don’t have to give it to them.

Tired of the hate toward poor people

I just saw a meme on Facebook asking people to “like” it of they get pissed off at seeing food stamp recipients smoking cigarettes, watching cable TV or talking on a cell phone. One of the people who shared it was the daughter of a friend, a woman I’ve known since she was born.

It broke my heart just a little to see it.

Earlier I saw a post asking if the insanity at 7 a.m. at Home Depot involved (epithet for Latinos) standing in line waiting for day labor.

I work with people every day who qualify for food stamps. They do not live in the lap of luxury.

Did you know that food stamps provide less than $5 a day? Could you eat on that?

As for the people in line for day labor, plenty of them are not Latino, and they can’t find work elsewhere. In addition, undocumented immigrants do not qualify for any government benefits. Look it up.

As for what people deserve, did you know that people with certain mental illnesses almost always smoke cigarettes? No one seems to know what the connection is, but it is there.

Cell phones are a necessity for people who can’t afford a land line. Most of the people I serve have cheap WalMart cell phones and they buy a couple hundred minutes a month. When their minutes run out, they go without a phone for the rest of the month. I have yet to see a homeless person with an iPhone.

Most people who live on disability get less than $800 a month. Try to live on that.

How’s this for a story? One woman replied to the Facebook meme saying she is home all day because of a disability, and she smokes cigarettes. The government has decided she is too disabled to try to rehabilitate, in her words. She watches cable TV because there is nothing else for her to do. Even if she could get out, she couldn’t afford to do anything.

For every poor person I’ve ever known there is a story. The people I serve are NOT lazy; they are not bums and they don’t want to be on government assistance.

But if you start out poor in this country, despite the “American dream” myth, you likely will remain poor.

Nowadays, if you start out middle class, you’re likely to sink into debt and even into poverty.

Let’s say you have a good job as an art teacher. With the funding cuts to schools these days, art is one of the first programs to go. If you get laid off, what other skills do you have? Will you be able to find another job at the pay you’re making now? Not likely. Will you be able to maintain your lifestyle on half the pay you were making — or even less?

Since you can’t go out to dinner or the movies, does that mean you don’t deserve ANY means of entertainment, even basic cable? Does it mean you don’t deserve a telephone?

Very few of us are more than six months away from financial disaster. When you see someone  who is poor and talking on a cell phone, remember you could be in that same situation very easily.